Dear Cuckoldress,
I am in a relationship where everything is ok between me and my girlfriend except she is constantly talking about how “hot” certain athletes are or how they are “real men”. Or if one of her girlfriends is watching the same game that we are, then she and her gfs will be texting back and forth. I continually feel like a cuckold by how she talks about pro athletes.
Even though she claims I satisfy her in bed and I have a 6 1/2″ cock that is thicker at the base of the shaft which she likes, she constantly makes me feel like less of a man when we watch sports together. She will say stuff when we are watching bullriding, like some rider is so hot in his Wranglers, only real men ride bulls, is the PBR coming to our area, she and her gfs will have to get tickets. Not like, oh let’s go see the bullriding honey. Nope. She wants to check out the bullriders up close with her gfs. So I guess I’m not a real man, but a cuckold to her in comparison to Alpha male pro athletes.
Then when we watch football, she’s constantly hot for the black guys, or she is talking about Mark Sanchez, the quarterback of the New York Jets if we’re watching a Jets game. I even saw her text one of her friends that she was “crushing on Sanchez, bet he is hung unlike Favre”. You’d think all this sex stuff would make her want me after the game. Nosirree. Every time I put a move on her after a game, she will only let me lick her pussy and use her big black dildo on her pussy and she tells me I can just jerk off. Am I a cuckold to her big black dildo and her fantasy athlete fuck?
I can’t even watch sports with her unless I want to be turned into a cuckold during the whole game or race or event. Am I a sports cuckold? Is she a Sports Cuckoldress? She doesn’t seem to cuckold me outside of sports!
My response about Sports Cuckold will be in my Dear Cuckoldress column…
Christina Aguilera is a hot blonde Cuckoldress who cuckolded her husband in humiliating public fashion. She married top record company executive Jordan Bratman and they set up house in Ozzy Osbourne’s former home in L.A. But they didn’t live happily ever after. The perception was that Christina always held the position of power in the marriage as she was much wealthier than Bratman. Was her husband just a cuckold accessory? A “cover” husband to hide her real sexual pursuits? Christina had made a past statement to the media that she preferred men with “flava”. And flava in urban speak means black men with large cocks. So it was well-known that Xtina lusted for interracial sex action. But it wasn’t interracial sex during her marriage that Xtina wanted to pursue.
So if it wasn’t interracial sex, what did Christina lust for? Her husband supposedly confessed that Christina was a voracious bisexual chica who cuckolded him by doing girls all the time! Poor Jordan. How many men would consider their hot wives enjoying lesbian sex trysts to be cuckolding? Most men would be sexually turned on to know their hot wives were doing other hot women. But Christina apparently wasn’t letting him watch the hot girl on girl action so he felt cuckolded. And perhaps Xtina was expending all her sexual energy on the pussy and not on the cock. Her husband’s cock. So Jordan might have spent a lot of his marriage with cock in hand, sexually frustrated.
So when Christina Aguilera’s cuckold marriage deteriorated, she cuckolded her husband even further. She took up with her personal assistant, Matt Rutler, a cute but wimpy looking guy in a mediocre, unknown local L.A. rock band. Some doubted that Xtina would make a true play for her personal assistant, unless he was just a pawn in her power play to cuckold her husband. And as a total Cuckoldress insult, while she and her husband were legally separated, her hubby was still living at the house, and Xtina moved her playtoy in with them. So she cuckolded her top record exec husband with a lowly band boy P/A! Public humiliation for her cuckold husband as this was splashed all over the media!
How could her cuckold hubby withstand the humiliation? Cuckold hubby pulled the plug on the cuckold relationship and left. And against all odds, Cuckoldress Christina is still with her boytoy. But other rumors began to swirl: Did Christina orchestrate the whole scenario? Rutler is on her payroll, is he acting as the new “cover” while she pursues what she really craves – pussy? Or since her career is flagging, did she sacrifice her marriage for the sake of celebrity publicity to revive interest in her as a pop artist?
Cuckoldress: Christina Aguilera
Cuckold: Jordan Bratman, Christina’s ex-husband
Cuckolder: Matt Rutler, Christina’s Personal Assistant
I’ve been asked by quite a few Cuckoldress readers about some of the popular cuckold slang including Cuckhold, Cockhold, Cockold, Cuckolderess and Cuckqueen. There seems to be some confusion as to what these related words really mean and whether or not they are spelling variations, cuckold slang or have meanings unto themselves.
Cuckhold is a spelling variation of cuckold, although in some cases it is an actual variation used when a Femdom or Hot Wife wants to assert that she has a cuckhold, as in a possession. She owns the cuckold and can do whatever she wants with him including cuckolding. A Cuckholdress would be the Cuckoldress in this situation, i.e., the Femdom or Hotwife who asserts control and possession over the cuckhold.
Cockhold began as a spelling variation on cuckold, but being a cockhold usually means there is an element of Hot Wife imposed chastity (keyholding) or Femdom cock control in the relationship. A cockhold has surrendered control over his cock to the Cockholder or Cockholdress and may be chastized, teased, denied and have his orgasms ruined. The cock control may also be enforced by the Femdom Hot Wife Cockholder / Cockholdress cuckolding the cockhold, but not in all cases.
Cockold is a spelling variation of cuckold and to my knowledge and research has not yielded any variations on the traditional definition.
Cuckolderess is a spelling variation of Cuckoldress and again hasn’t yielded any variations re: the Cuckoldress definition. It is a common misspelling of Cuckoldress.
Cuckqueen is a spelling variation of Cuckquean in some cases and in other cases, it is used as an abbreviation of Cuckold Queen or Cuckold Size Queen, meaning a Cuckoldress who is very dominant, presiding over her cuck and who prefers to have sex with only well hung men. A Cuckqueen can also be a Femdom who rules over her cuckie slaves.
In the blog post Cuckold Cuckoldress Cuckquean, a cuckold wrote in about his cuckold predicament and sought advice as to whether he should stay in his cuckold marriage or get divorced from his Cuckoldress wife. One commenter advised him to stay since he was inadequate in bed, meaning what real choice did he have but to accept being a cuckold? My advice in Dear Cuckoldress in response to his query was virtually the same. I received another email from this cuckold with a short update:
Dear Cuckoldress Sara,
I realized after seeing my email on your blog, your Dear Cuckoldress response and what your commenter wrote, that I am in a helpless cuckold position. I kind of look at it like in a chess game, it’s checkmate, the Size Queen has me cornered. My Cuckoldress Size Queen wife would not be pursuing sex with other men if I was capable of keeping her sexually satisfied. But I must be doing something for my Cuckoldress. Yes, providing for her. I give her the ability to have a very nice lifestyle which she wouldn’t be able to enjoy without my money. I think she also secretly enjoys cuckolding me, and perhaps this gives her a sexual thrill? I know it makes me feel humiliated, but that seems to be the fate of the cuckold to feel humiliation, to become sexually excited by this humiliation. Not just the cuckold humiliation, but the small penis humiliation and last but not least, the humiliation of sexual rejection. So I’ve come to realize that I’m better off being a cuckold than being divorced and lonely.
Response from the Cuckoldress:
In Evolutionary Biology, there are biological theories of different types of males and how they function to perpetuate a species. The S or R male is the Sexual or Reproductive Male, who the females mate with and is generally perceived to be a stronger, larger male and sometimes to have a larger penis. This is not necessarily the male the female may reside with while they raise their offspring. The S or R male is the Alpha male. The Alpha male is free to roam to sexually engage with females. Then there is the Q male. The Q male is the Quality of life male, the provider, the beta male. The beta male may not be as large or strong as the S or R male and may also have a small penis. This male will remain with the female and watch over her, improve the quality of her life and participate in raising her offspring, even if they are not his. This aspect of Evolutionary Biology occurs in many species.
Therefore, cuckolding is a natural biological occurrence. But because as human beings we are more evolved creatures, we also experience all of the emotions involved with the dynamics of a cuckold relationship. For a Cuckoldress, she is experiencing the power and thrill of cuckolding her Q male. Without that dynamic in place, the thrill of having sex with S or R males isn’t as powerful. The sex becomes more powerful for a Cuckoldress Size Queen when she has sex with Alpha males while cuckolding her beta male. The beta male in turn is more highly sexualized because he is in competition with the S or R males, and produces more sperm, the latter has been proven in studies and is discussed in the book, Sperm Wars. More sperm production means stronger orgasms, even though the Q male knows that he is not the sexual choice of the Cuckoldress. The biological imperative of the Q male is to compete regardless of his poor chances of mating with the Cuckoldress. So, the sex for all participants in the cuckold relationship is heightened. Even the Alpha male is more excited by fucking someone else’s wife or girlfriend, by the conquest, by the act of cuckolding a lesser beta male.
I originated the terms Sports Cuckolding and Reverse Cuckolding and now I’m adding Gay Cuckolding to the Cuckoldress lexicon. Let me share with you a story from one of my gay cuckold humiliation fans depicting Gay Cuckolding in action. I will respond to this Gay Cuckold’s query in Dear Cuckoldress…
Dear Cuckoldress Sara, I have a total crush on Kirk (name changed) and he knows it, but he takes humiliating advantage of me, maybe you would call it gay cuckolding? Here are some examples of the cuckolding he’s done to me, so let me know what you think. First, he made me do his laundry in the basement of his apartment building, so he could spend time with this totally hot hunk up in his apartment. I assume they fucked while I was the laundry boy. Total gay cuckold humiliation to do his laundry including his dirty boxers, briefs, dirty socks, jeans, t-shirts and dirty sheets with cum stains.
Next, he spotted me at this local very popular bi-level cafe down on the first level, he was on the second level with some hot buds. He whistled and waved me to come up to the second level. I thought, awesome, he wants me to join them, instead he made me get refills for everyone. Then after I got the refills, he was dismissive and said “text ya later”. Which he didn’t. More gay cuckold humiliation.
Then I gave up plans to go to a party so I could go out with him. I thought we were going on a date, but instead he told me to meet him at this gay dance club where he made me his cuckold bitch and buy him drinks and buy drinks for whatever hunk he was dancing with. I was hoping he’d ultimately go home with me, I desperately wanted to suck his cock. It was getting late, almost 1:00 am, at that point I knew the painful truth was he was just cuckolding and cockteasing me, but then he cuckolded me big time and left with this amazing hunk. So why all nite long at the gay club, did he made it crystal clear I was his cuckold bitch? I guess he did this so other gay men wouldn’t flirt with me or wouldn’t try to hook up with me. He cuckold cock-blocked me from hooking up with anyone else except my hand. Yeah, I went home and jerked off and had the most explosive orgasm ever.
Then I asked him to a baseball game, I scored incredible seats along the first base line, expensive! He said yes, but he wanted to bring along a friend. I had to jump thru hoops to score a third ticket. Instead of me picking them up to take them to the game, they opted to meet me at a well-known big bronze baseball player statue outside the stadium. His “friend” turned out to be the hunky stud he went home with at the club that nite. All during the game, I had to buy him and his friends beers and hot dogs. Now this doesn’t sound like much except the beers are $14 each and the dogs are $7 each. So I spent over $200 on beer and hot dogs for all three of us. I suggested in the ninth inning that we go out to a club after the game, but Kirk said he and Ricky already had plans. So then I went to a hotel bar in a hotel next door to the stadium after the game and got pretty drunk and ended up sucking some guy’s cock in his hotel room and he gave me the boot after I made him cum. I was so drunk I had to get a hotel room instead of driving home and that cost me over $100, so I was out close to $600 that nite and again, I felt like such a gay cuckold. I jerked off and passed out.
Now I want to know Sara, should I be Kirk’s gay cuckold or should I just be alone? I hate to confess that gay cuckold humiliation excites me, makes me have super strong masturbation orgasms and that I’m still crushing on Kirk despite how terrible he treats me.
