guest post by an Australian couple exploring the swinging lifestyle and how it differs from the cuckolding lifestyle…
As anyone involved in the lifestyle will know, being a cuckold can take many forms and means different things to everyone. Some couples engaging in the milder forms of this relationship dynamic may choose not to directly involve other people in order for the cuckolding to take place. This may be in the form of sharing photographs of one’s partners or inviting others to engage in erotic conversation or role play based around the theme of taking sexual control out of the cuck’s hands. Given the exciting but potentially extreme nature of a cuckold relationship, for a number of couples this hands off approach offers much of the benefits of sexual contact with others but without any of the potentially intrusive negative elements.
For couples more deeply involved with the cuckold idea, there is usually an involvement with the swingers lifestyle in order to facilitate inclusion of additional sexual partners from outside established relationships. Although cuckolding fits extremely nicely with swinging, the “standard” swinging scene does not generally fulfill the same desires as cuckolding. For many couples, the sharing element of partner swapping is based on a foundation of trust and equality which are precisely the opposite of what a cuckolding interactions seeks to explore. Of course cuckold relationships must have even stronger trust than regular swingers’ relationships, but the act of cuckolding is a fundamentally different interaction to that of standard sex with someone other than your usual sexual partner.
On a recent trip to Australia my partner and I were lucky enough to attend a party organized to allow a group of Sydney swingers to explore the cuckold dynamic in a safe and supportive way. Many of this group were very experienced swingers who had been on the scene for some time and had gradually gravitated towards the idea of cuckolding as opposed to the (for experienced swingers) standard idea of vanilla partner swapping. It was extremely interesting to discuss how each couple had a slightly different take on the idea of cuckolding and the variety of combinations and situations they found stimulating.
After a few hours of very sociable and frank conversation, couples started pairing off with other couples who shared compatible ideas and eventually retired to some of the play rooms together. Sometime later, as people drifted back to the bar area afterwards, there was an excellent atmosphere with a palpable sexual tension borne of the exploration that had happened during the evening. Couples discussed what had gone on and how their experiences could be extended with some being content to gently play with the ideas they’d explored and others considering how to make the ultimate leap into the totally immersive 24/7 lifestyle that true cuckold couples enjoy.
For us it was only even going to be another holiday experiment and a way to explore our own sexuality as individuals and as a couple, but it was an extremely exciting evening and it proved once again that swingers are indeed some of the most interesting and sexually dynamic people you can hope to meet.
Guest post from a cuckold…
just wanted to share my thoughts on the psychology behind interracial cuckoldry. It strikes me that there is not one single explanation behind why a white male may be excited by the prospect of being interracially cuckolded. Web pages dealing with the matter are littered with troll posts accusing the cuckold of being ‘gay’ or ‘racist’. But are those allegations true and reasonable? Yes, no and/or not necessarily in my view.
I suggest that the following standpoints (among others, no doubt) could evoke an erotic sensation within a white male:
1) A white male with latent bisexual or gay tendencies may be unwilling to have sex with a man but can concede to watching his woman in the act with a big black man and thus vicariously experience it through her.
2) Elitist white males who enjoy voyeuristic sex as a power trip may seek to debase and eroticize uneducated black men, perceiving them to pose less of a threat because the wives would supposedly never date them.
3) White males who crave sexual humiliation can seek to objectify black men as the Alpha males (in light of the darker skin, superior athleticism and larger penis size) and thus yearn to be emasculated and marginalized by the superiority of their partner’s big black lover.
4) White males, guilty at their forefathers’ treatment of the black race, can seek spiritual restitution by adopting a submissive role in their dealings with black men, and so deriving a sense of salvation by their complete surrender of their beloved partner to a big black man.
5) Inadequately endowed or impotent white males may develop a sexual insecurity about their shortcomings, in light of the increasingly advertised view that ‘size does matter’ and the modern feminists’ (e.g. Sex And The City, etc) outspoken demands for energetic, talented sexual intercourse. In recognition of their inescapable deficiencies, loving and selfless males may deem it right to encourage and/or support their loving partners in experiencing a bigger, more potent and satisfying penis, and thus better sex, than he himself could ever hope to provide.
6) A white male may be affected by circumstance, as his ex-girlfriend/wife may have left him for a big black man, thus fostering an obvious and reasonable feeling of complete inadequacy and insecurity. Consequently, the white cuckold will often automatically eroticize black males and become fascinated by the unrivaled beauty and power of an interracial pairing.
I am sure this list is far from exhaustive. And perhaps every white boy cuckold is motivated by a combination of reasons. I, for one, believe that I fall under a combination of (3), (5) and (6). But that does not make me either racist or gay, in my humble opinion.
I wonder Empress Sara, would you agree? Or do you perhaps think that all interracial cuckolds (white boys) are feeling a racial reversal because they now believe that black men are superior, or are they also homosexuals or sissies?
I truly felt cuckolded after my live-in girlfriend and I had a long talk about her best friend. She admitted that her friend likes big cocks and specifically big black cocks and told me about a recent encounter her friend had with a cute whiteboy who tried to sex her up. He had a small dick and her friend told him to stop after less than a minute because “she couldn’t even feel him”! Small Penis Humiliation at an ego-crushing level. It’s one thing to be told before sex that your penis is too small, but it’s brutal humiliation, trust me, if a girl tells you mid-fuck, that she can’t even feel your penis! I used the term Size Queen to describe her and my girlfriend agreed, explaining that she has become that way, and my girlfriend told that now the first thing her friend mentions when recounting a new date is the size of the new man’s penis.
When I suggested that perhaps my girlfriend felt and acted in the same way, she reacted sympathetically by reassuring me that she is not like that (hmmmm???? I was not convinced). She then added that she might have become that way if she’d stayed single longer and upgraded her dildo size. She explained that she and her friend had bought dildos together, with her going for an average size but her Size Queen friend choosing a massive lifelike one. I couldn’t resist the urge to ask the color! As you say Cuckoldress, always bet on Black! My girlfriend feels that her friend ruined herself for normal men by overusing the massive dildo. Out of curiosity, I asked my girl how big the one she bought was, and she opened her hands and said “about that big, not too much bigger than yours”. I shriveled inside, as I recalled her earlier description of her dildo size as “average”. I know my girlfriend loves me, but she also indirectly cuckolds me every time she brings up the sexual exploits of her Size Queen girlfriend.
Still on the same topic, she described her friend as more promiscuous since they had gone their separate ways once we began living together. Her Size Queen friend now goes out with other girls and is more intent on ‘pulling’. In case your readers aren’t familiar with the term, pulling is when you try to sex up guys or girls (if you’re a guy) right in a bar or club, mainly kissing or groping, it’s like public pre-sex foreplay. Sometimes looking for action from more than one guy or girl in a nite. My girlfriend described how the only time that either her friend had ‘pulled’ when out together was before my girlfriend and I had met. My girlfriend said she came out of the ladies room to see her friend against a wall being passionately kissed by a big black man, a boxer actually. Apparently they had been talking to two boxers in the club, and my girlfriend says she spent about a minute just staring as her friend was kissed and mauled by the black stud. Her Size Queen friend left with the boxer and the next day told my girlfriend about his massive black cock. I asked my girlfriend why she hadn’t been pulled by the other boxer and she said he had gotten a cell phone call and told her he had to leave.
Now, as a secret or not so secret cuckold, I couldn’t resist submissively linking the two conversations. I put all recognition of inadequacy and small penis humiliation aside, and in a statement that would have made you proud Cuckoldress, I said to my girlfriend; “I think your friend should find herself a big black man now. If she likes black men. I mean, let’s face it, at least she’d get the big cock that she needs that way.” My girlfriend responded, “Yeah, she would. That’s true.”
I decided not to push it any more. But, on retrospect, in one single conversation she’d admitted and reiterated that her friend is a Size Queen, she thinks my dickie is smaller than average and that she’s very much aware that black men have bigger cocks. Which makes me think she may well harbor real desires to go black. And I promise Cuckoldress, if she does cuckold me, just as you have been doing for years, I will accept and support my place as a cuckold.
Cuckoldress,
My Cuckoldress wife and I live in an upscale neighborhood in Las Vegas. We both work in the casino industry. This is how the cuckolding began… A married couple moved in across the street from us, a black couple I should note, the husband Daunte works security at a casino and the wife Orianna works from home, running a sex toy business and holding sex toy parties around Vegas including supplying sex toys to Vegas bachelorette parties and divorce parties. Both Daunte and Orianna are very tall and striking. In fact I overheard my wife talking to another neighbor on the phone that Daunte was “built”. It didn’t bother me, I kinda brushed it off. I was just glad someone moved into the house, because it was a foreclosure and all the neighbors had been taking turns mowing and cutting whatever grass or weeds grew out out of the desert sand.
Orianna and my wife hit it off and would lay out by our pool. Daunte and Orianna’s pool was being redone because it had turned dish detergent green with algae and slime during the foreclosure. Sometimes my wife and Orianna would make me bring them drinks when they were out by the pool. I didn’t feel like a cuckold, I just felt like I was being nice and neighborly.
Then Orianna held a sex toy party for all the neighborhood wives. I knew my wife already had a vibrator and a dildo. I never used them with her, I’m not sure how often she used her sex toys. I didn’t ask my wife, just like she didn’t ask me how often I jerked off. I thought our sex life was ok. We had sex once a month. Little did I know I was about to be turned into a cuckold by…ok you’re thinking Daunte…but no…I was cuckolded by a sex toy.
And I still am. A big black cock, the Lexington Steele dildo actually. My wife came home with the Lex the Impaler sex toy from the party. She said she couldn’t wait to use it. I kinda popped a boner hearing that so I said I would lick her pussy and use the big black cock toy on her pussy too. Which I did. OMG my wife never came so hard or got so wet. Was it the interracial sex or the size of the big black cock, I wondered… Then the next nite my wife said, let’s have sex again. I assumed this meant she wanted me to fuck her. No. This meant she wanted me to lick her pussy and use Lex (the name she gave to the big black cock dildo) on her pussy. This interracial Cuckoldress sex continued for months. I’m beginning to think it’s even more pathetic that while I was turned into a cuckold by Lexington Steele’s cock, it’s a lifelike dildo of Lex’s big black cock, instead of the real thing…
Almost every nite, I have to fuck my Cuckoldress wife’s pussy using the black cock. My Cuckoldress wife doesn’t want to have sex with me anymore and when I’ve begged for sex, she has made the jerk off motion with her hand toward me or once even gave me the finger! This is my wife?!?! I feel like such an interracial cuckold. I don’t know what to do about our sex life or cuckold marriage.
I’ve also found my Cuckoldress wife watching interracial sex porn. She even said that Orianna mentioned a porn convention coming up here in Vegas where Lexington Steele is making a personal appearance and that she and Orianna both want to meet him. All I could do was picture my Cuckoldress hot wife and Orianna getting into a mixed interracial sex threesome with Lex. This excited me so much I had to go jerk off to my cuckold fantasy.
So my questions for Dear Cuckoldress are: Should I accept my pathetic fate as a cuckold, cuckolded by a big black cock sex toy and be glad my wife isn’t actually fucking a black guy like Daunte or Lexington Steele? Or should I keep begging for some mercy sex from my Cuckoldress wife? I forgot to mention my cock size is an average 6 inches. Also, I have to mention my Cuckoldress wife has made me suck the pussy juices off of the big black cock dildo a few times and called me “cocksucker”. I don’t know if that’s worse than being called a cuckold? Thank you for answering my Cuckoldress questions and for any cuckold advice you might have for me.
