There was an intriguing article on Salon.com recently about a cuckold relationship in which the girlfriend felt that she had been used to satisfy her ex-boyfriend’s cuckold fetish. While the idea of being a Cuckoldress and living the lifestyle appealed to her and while she craved having the power, she ended up feeling trapped in the cuckold relationship instead. In her confessional story, this woman felt she had been manipulated by her ex-boyfriend. She divulged that she felt post-relationship remorse over how her ex-boyfriend had put his selfish sexual needs ahead of hers. He topped her from the bottom, as beta males, submissives or cuckolds are sometimes known to do in order to try to get what they want. I doubt she will ever get involved with a cuckold again. Was this a Cuckoldress fail? Not essentially. The sexual freedom to pursue lusty liaisons with well-hung men or Alpha males while being in a relationship with a cuckold simply did not work for her.
Many men do not start out in their sex life as a cuckold. Somewhere along the way, cuckolds develop these sexual tendencies and then their full-blown fetish follows. Just like any fetish introduced into a relationship, it may not be a “shared” fetish. A cucky cannot expect that his spouse, his girlfriend or any woman he meets will share this fetish with him. Becoming a Cuckoldress usually roots in dominance or desire for sexual freedom and power. While I often discuss with men who call for cuckold phone sex, how to get their wives or girlfriends interested in cuckolding them, there are obviously women who do not want to pursue this whatsoever. There are many reasons why women may not want to indulge in a cuckold relationship. Women may be sexually conservative, feel insecure about their looks, consider cuckolding to be cheating, feel no need to sleep with other men, feel that fantasizing or role playing is enough of a satisfying sexual expression, etc. But there are some women who can be persuaded to go further into cuckoldry. I don’t want to divulge my secrets here on how to turn your wife or girlfriend into a Cuckoldress. But one hint is that you have to let her think it’s her idea, not yours. Call me live on Niteflirt for more.
