In the blog post Cuckold Cuckoldress Cuckquean, a cuckold wrote in about his cuckold predicament and sought advice as to whether he should stay in his cuckold marriage or get divorced from his Cuckoldress wife. One commenter advised him to stay since he was inadequate in bed, meaning what real choice did he have but to accept being a cuckold? My advice in Dear Cuckoldress in response to his query was virtually the same. I received another email from this cuckold with a short update:
Dear Cuckoldress Sara,
I realized after seeing my email on your blog, your Dear Cuckoldress response and what your commenter wrote, that I am in a helpless cuckold position. I kind of look at it like in a chess game, it’s checkmate, the Size Queen has me cornered. My Cuckoldress Size Queen wife would not be pursuing sex with other men if I was capable of keeping her sexually satisfied. But I must be doing something for my Cuckoldress. Yes, providing for her. I give her the ability to have a very nice lifestyle which she wouldn’t be able to enjoy without my money. I think she also secretly enjoys cuckolding me, and perhaps this gives her a sexual thrill? I know it makes me feel humiliated, but that seems to be the fate of the cuckold to feel humiliation, to become sexually excited by this humiliation. Not just the cuckold humiliation, but the small penis humiliation and last but not least, the humiliation of sexual rejection. So I’ve come to realize that I’m better off being a cuckold than being divorced and lonely.
Response from the Cuckoldress:
In Evolutionary Biology, there are biological theories of different types of males and how they function to perpetuate a species. The S or R male is the Sexual or Reproductive Male, who the females mate with and is generally perceived to be a stronger, larger male and sometimes to have a larger penis. This is not necessarily the male the female may reside with while they raise their offspring. The S or R male is the Alpha male. The Alpha male is free to roam to sexually engage with females. Then there is the Q male. The Q male is the Quality of life male, the provider, the beta male. The beta male may not be as large or strong as the S or R male and may also have a small penis. This male will remain with the female and watch over her, improve the quality of her life and participate in raising her offspring, even if they are not his. This aspect of Evolutionary Biology occurs in many species.
Therefore, cuckolding is a natural biological occurrence. But because as human beings we are more evolved creatures, we also experience all of the emotions involved with the dynamics of a cuckold relationship. For a Cuckoldress, she is experiencing the power and thrill of cuckolding her Q male. Without that dynamic in place, the thrill of having sex with S or R males isn’t as powerful. The sex becomes more powerful for a Cuckoldress Size Queen when she has sex with Alpha males while cuckolding her beta male. The beta male in turn is more highly sexualized because he is in competition with the S or R males, and produces more sperm, the latter has been proven in studies and is discussed in the book, Sperm Wars. More sperm production means stronger orgasms, even though the Q male knows that he is not the sexual choice of the Cuckoldress. The biological imperative of the Q male is to compete regardless of his poor chances of mating with the Cuckoldress. So, the sex for all participants in the cuckold relationship is heightened. Even the Alpha male is more excited by fucking someone else’s wife or girlfriend, by the conquest, by the act of cuckolding a lesser beta male.
